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Single Women (and Men) by Karalee Austin
SINGLE WOMEN (and Men)! By Karalee Austin NoWaitingDating.com Remember when little girls used to dream about a knight in shining armor whisking them away to live happily ever after? It used to be that a woman’s foremost fantasy was finding the man of her dreams. Well, things have changed! Today for the first time in American history, there are more single women (51%). Many of these single women love their independence, are in the work force, economically stable and happier than ever before. To put it bluntly, many do not need OR want a man in their lives! Recently I had a “Marriage Minded” speed dating event for women and men ages 28 to 40 and had to cancel the event because there were not enough women interested in attending. However there was a wait list for the men. Younger men complain to me all the time how they cannot find a woman who wants to get married and have a family. In fact, the men associate a term to these ladies. It’s the 3 “Bs” (busy, busy, busy). Many women nowadays are so involved with their careers, obsessed with working out at the gym and going out to dinner with their girlfriends, that they don’t have time for men. And when they decide to meet a man, it could be two weeks before they’re free to work them into their “busy” schedule. Unfortunately when these women reach the age of 42 or so, they suddenly realize there’s no man in their life and no baby! Personally I have found that most women want a baby however the longer they wait to conceive, the more difficult it is since their biological clocks are ticking.
We here at No Waiting Dating often receive complaints from men that women are not really seeking a relationship. Many men feel the women use them to be taken out to a nice restaurant for an expensive meal. (This applies to mostly older women as younger women are in this “independent” mode and usually insist on going Dutch. Heaven forbid they let the man’s masculinity shine by letting him treat her like a lady. She’s intent on proving she’s his equal!!) Recently a man called to tell me that he had invited a girl out to lunch asking her to pick the place. Unfortunately, he was unaware that she had picked one of the most expensive restaurants in Santa Monica. The “lunch” bill for two was over $100! He felt completely used. Also to top it off, everyone feels this lady lies about her age. She claims she’s no older than 48 when it’s obvious she’s closer to 60 (the guy is only 48). Women who consort to face lifts feel that since they look younger, they ARE younger. All of a sudden, they are “too young” to date anyone their own age. I see it all the time at my speed dating events. A face lift not only changes their physical appearance but their mental attitude as well. This applies to men as well as women. I’ve often scheduled “Older Women/Younger Men” and “Older Men/Younger Women” speed dating events. In the “Older Women” events, I suspect the men attend because they think the older women are there for sex. I could be wrong, nevertheless I no longer hold this type of event. In the “Older Men” type of events, most women today are not interested in meeting a man who is much older unless that man has something special to offer (i.e., money, exceptional looks, social status). How many of you know someone who married or dated someone a lot older or younger? It used to be much more common years ago but nowadays most women are interested in meeting someone their own age or younger (tables have changed….). I know it’s entirely possible to fall in love with someone who is older or younger. Great, if that happens. It’s all about chemistry. If you meet someone who is not in your age range and there’s tons of chemistry, then go for it. It’s when a person seeks only someone younger and disregards a possible romantic encounter with a person their own age that


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